I bet people find it less creepy if the small person is with you (see 1.5), but that makes it harder to offer to help.

I am trying to sort out how much of the horse-choking sexism is in the person having the reactions (both the big approval and the being creeped out), and how much is in the culture they are realistically perceiving.

Brain broken, can't today. Love to you and Weesauce and the sick-kid solo-parent.